The Big “O” (Achieving Orgasms)
‘SEX SELLS’ is a slogan that everyone is familiar with but unfortunately, the industry hasn’t quite figured out how to bottle up orgasms and put a price tag on it. For men, this isn’t that big of a deal but this discovery would be earth shattering for the thousands of women out there who are in desperate need of the secret formula. Women are more likely to orgasm when they feel loved and appreciated, regrettably that sometimes isn’t enough either. Each person’s body responds differently so it’s hard to say what will work for each individual but here are a few things that might aid in helping to find your ‘happy ending.’
A woman reaching orgasm can equally depend on her mind and, you guessed it, her clitoris! First things first, let’s discuss the mind. There’s so much going on during the day that sometimes it’s hard to clear your brain and truly relax. Stress is a common factor that prevents women from having an orgasm. It can be anything from daily distractions to excessive worry and anxiety that keeps you from being in the mood in the first place. It is important to make time for yourself to wind down with a glass of wine, meditation, or even exercising. There are a few different things you can do, such as taking a bath, which can double in helping you relax and maybe a little foreplay. It’s always nice to have a partner but every so often a little ‘alone time’ is key!
Let’s face it, you can’t expect someone else to bring you to an orgasm if you can’t do it yourself. Once a woman has discovered the map to climaxing on her own, she is much more likely to do it with a partner. Self-love is the best love and knowing your body inside and out makes a big difference. Do some exploring of yourself, by YOURSELF and find out what it is that you like and what really gets you going. The more familiar you are with your body, the more direction you can give to your partner & ultimately the more satisfaction you’ll have in your sex life.
It’s important to have an open dialogue with your partner when it comes to your needs (and theirs) regarding sex. It is even more important to make sure that you are making time for each other and getting the deed done! Keep in mind that having sex releases endorphins that are natural painkillers and many studies suggest that having orgasms regularly can keep you looking younger and healthier. The only problem is that some studies show that only about 30% of women reach climax during vaginal-penile intercourse. This is where the clitoris plays a major part! The clitoris is full of nerve endings and it’s almost impossible to go wrong if you guide your partner in this direction. Oral sex is arguably the best way to achieve intense orgasms but touching, rubbing or any kind of direct clitoral stimulation can definitely help get you to nirvana!
There are a ton of different positions that you can try with your partner but you both have to have an open mind and be willing to compromise to please each other. Try to have fun and don’t always focus on achieving the big O, this is NOT a test! Go ahead, relax and enjoy the ride!! No pun intended…