Encouraging Your Significant Other to be More Comfortable with Anal Play
So, you’re thinking about inducting your significant other into the ‘Back-door Betty” club but not quite sure how to bring it up? Too much too soon, let’s try again! You are ready to try anal sex but your partner is being a butthole about it? Sorry, just couldn’t resist either of them! By now you should know that our topics are not created for the faint of heart or those who are unwilling to peep into the new era of sexual liberation! Anal sex is truly the most taboo of them all for various reasons. Truth is, many are unwilling to try it because they really only hear the horror stories and automatically shut out all ideas of anal sex. Well here we’re going to give you a few pointers and hopefully it helps loosen your partner up a bit!
Doing it in the butt is NOT engaging in deviant behavior! I know that’s what you have been told all your life and you believe that it’s an act that only whores and homosexual men partake in. It’s just not true. If your partner believes this then it is your job to dive a little deeper to see where this idea originated and start there. Even straight men are caught off guard with the amount of pleasure they receive from anal stimulation. They (men) have an advantage over women because they have a prostate (p-spot) which provides even more sensual gratification. Anal sex is not an act that you just dive into and it certainly needs to be discussed before trying it out. The first experience will probably not be the most pleasant but trust your partner and be sure to tell them what you’re feeling during the act.
Porn should not be used as a “how to guide.” Porn stars are paid to share their experiences and what you see is NOT what you get! You have to be extremely patient and gentle when it comes to anal sex, especially if it’s your first time (either of you). Pain is not the pleasure element that you’re going for and if it’s too painful your partner will not want to try it again. Erase all images of you running through the backdoor, not going to end the way you imagine, trust me! The anus is full of nerves that are waiting to provide extreme bliss but those same nerve clusters can become damaged or cause a lot of discomfort with the wrong techniques. Do your research, take your time and don’t try anything you see on tv at home!
Finally, be sure that your partner feels like you have THEIR concerns at the forefront of your mind and it’s not solely about your enjoyment, even if it’s not the whole truth! Do have the conversation and do find ways to make sure your partner is completely relaxed and at ease with the idea of anal sex with you. Remember, this is a new experience that could make or break the future of further exploration. Start with familiarizing yourself with the nether region before you just dive right in. Use your tongue, finger(s) and then sex toys to see how your partner likes it first. This should be a slow process that leads up to the big finale!
We will bring this to a close but not before we remind you to always practice safety FIRST! The anus does not produce lubrication which could lead to increase chances of small tears in the anal cavity. This places all parties at greater risk for transmitting STDs, HIV and hepatitis C. Condoms are certainly recommended and please do NOT insert anything (penis/objects) into the vagina that have been in the anus! This is another way to spread infections. How did we forget to mention, CLEANLINESS is also a factor! Before you begin, let go of all the sh*t (literally), shower, relax and enjoy the little ride.