Embracing Your Sexuality (WITHOUT GUILT)

Whether you turn on the tv, radio or simply log on to your computer, sex is LITERALLY EVERYWHERE. Sometimes it feels as though we can barely blink without some type of blatant song lyrics, oversexualized commercial, or our hypersexual pop culture bringing sex to the forefront of our minds. Well, you’ve heard the old saying, if you can’t beat em, join em. Here’s how to embrace your sexuality WITHOUT GUILT!

Although it’s something that crosses our minds throughout the day, why is it that we often feel forced to repress our sexual feelings & desires? Ideas about ones sexuality can change at any time and often does. These desires (at least most of them) are normal and part of being human. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having sexual feelings. It’s simply a fact of life however the key to owning it is knowing how to deal with those impulses.

Before blossoming into that guilt free sexual person that you want to be, perhaps first you should change your mind about sex. Change how you view the act of sex. It’s natural…..It’s normal……Almost everyone does it! If you grew up in an extremely conservative or religious household, it’s hard to envision you not feeling guilty about natural sexual desires. We are taught that fornication is a sin but are never told how to deal with the body’s impulses.

First things first, let’s totally erase EVERYTHING that you were taught to make you feel guilty about doing things that make your body feel good. Start completely over and challenge yourself to find ways to express your feelings in a way that’s acceptable to you within society. Secondly, change how you view yourself!! This cannot be said enough, no one could ever love you better than you! You have to make yourself feel desirable and worthy to give and receive love and to quench your own sexual thirst.

This is the beginning of discovering who you are and what you truly enjoy. Disregard all that you’ve been taught that makes sex feel taboo. When you are comfortable with yourself, learning your guilty pleasures becomes fun. The caveat to this is that expressing those pleasures can make you feel totally shameless. Accepting who you are opens up new doors to your sexual nature and you no longer feel restricted to gender roles, rules and regulations.

Once you make a decision to overcome the boundaries of your sexuality, you’ll be able to better enjoy your sexual experiences and consider the impact that it has on your life. Being in tune with your star player, yes YOU, helps you to really decide what you want to try. None of this is done out of desperation or lack of companionship but your true inner curiosity. It’s true that our desires may cause us to feel vulnerable or leave us thinking that someone has power over how we should feel about ourselves. Here’s the reality. It’s your life, your body and your terms. Live life to the fullest and take back your power especially the power of the “P”. Liberate yourself and don’t be afraid to throw caution to the wind!