Do You Leave a Good Partner When the Sex is Horrible?
It’s hard to describe what bad sex consists of exactly but one thing that everyone can agree on is that it certainly does exist! Everyone’s idea of good sex is different because there are so many elements that come into play and those elements vary individually. The question that remains at the end of the day is, can bad sex really be a deal breaker?
General chemistry is what usually bonds two people together. Regardless of what people say about “opposites attract,” you HAVE to have things in common to build on or at least be willing to explore the other person’s interest and figure it out. The same thing goes for sex, you must be compatible with your partner in order for things to progress, happily over time. Perfect example; if he is into role play, whips, chains and handcuffs and you simply prefer fluffing the pillows and doing it missionary, no exceptions, your relationship is doomed!
Don’t ever feel bad for speaking up about what you like, or don’t like regarding anything in your relationship, especially when it comes to sex. Sex is a bonding activity and it does bring you and your partner closer together and it’s ok to tell them what you enjoy. You deserve good sex and don’t let anyone tell you any differently. Just know that it can take some time to learn what your partner likes because chances are, if you aren’t enjoying it, neither are they, honestly.
Our advice is that you talk about your preferences early in the relationship and put it all out there! When you love someone it forces you to try to salvage a relationship that’s not working but inconsistent sexual preferences is a huge reason that people call it quits. Talk it out, try to work it out and if it isn’t working, move along! Good sex opens the door to stronger connections and an overall better relationship so don’t cheat yourself out of that. Make your sexual needs a priority but if you’re not a sexual person and your partner is happy, then LOVE WINS!!