Can a Relationship Survive Without Including Oral Sex In The Mix?

If you ask any woman about the man that she loves, she’ll profess that she’s down like Brandy in the 90s but are you really ‘going down’? Is your man going down on you? If the answer to either of these questions is, “no” then your relationship might be on the verge of going down like Mary J. Blige and we all heard her cry at the end of that song! Ok, no more music therapy, let’s get to it!

When it comes to sex, every aspect of it being considered ‘good’ is based on individual preferences and expectations. Truth of the matter is, not everyone is into oral sex, whether it’s on the giving or receiving end. If two adults come together and decide that they love each other, they enjoy their relationship together and their sex life is AMAZING without oral, well hooray for you! You have passed the test and you’re exempt from this topic. It is sincerely NOT FOR EVERYONE and it is ok. On the other hand, for those of you who have decided it’s not for you and your partner is NOT ok with that, please continue.

There are tons of reasons why people don’t want to perform oral sex. Some of those excuses include; it’s nasty, it smells funny down there or my favorite, I JUST DON’T LIKE IT/DON’T WANT TO! To you I send a friendly reminder, it is far better to give than to receive my friend. Oral sex is an extremely selfless act and to some extent, it shows your partner that you care more about fulfilling their desires than your own. Arguably, the act is more intimate than penetration and honestly, the majority of women NEED some other form of stimulation (manual or oral) in order to reach orgasm. If your man is giving you good head, don’t withhold the good time! If the issue is vice versa, let them know that it’s important to you and oral sex is generally part of a healthy sexual relationship. Lack of erotic needs being met over time will change the relationship. It could take some time before curiosity gets the best of your partner and they find their needs being met elsewhere but try to meet in the middle and find common ground, or floor, or bed or ANYWHERE to give/get some head!!